Parents can forget that they are in charge. Their job is not to be friends with their children but to care for them. The most difficult part of being a parent is not mastering parenting techniques but adhering to them when their children push back. A groundbreaking exploration of the parent-child relationship, the book demonstrates when to be in charge, and how to strike the balance between parental responsibility and a child’s growing independence. Children need adults to survive. Despite the profound changes the digital era has wrought on family life, this remains the essence of parenthood. Being the Grownup helps parents translate their determination to care and protect into a voice that communicates authority in all matters of daily life. Confident expressions of both love and limits allow parents to be the grownups their children require.
Adelia Moore is a clinical psychologist in NYC specializing in therapy with couples, parents, families, and young adults. Moore received her BA in English from Harvard, a MS in Child Development from the University of Pittsburgh, and a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the University of Cincinnati. Moore’s essays have appeared in the Christian Science Monitor and Huffington Post. She has four sons and five grandchildren, and lives in Manhattan and Upstate New York with her husband. She is on FB, Twitter, Instagram, and adeliamoore.com.